Motivators

Everyone has their own formula of what motivates their desire. What turns on one Sub may just as easily turn another off. 

Simply asking a Sub what turns them on will provide you, if not the answers, an opening to explore.

Love languages translate to the world of BDSM.  • Physical touch might be delivered with a spanking or a neck grab.

• Acts of service, besides the obvious, might include the Sub in a servant role.

• Quality time through listening to and exploring with a Sub

• Words of affirmation are as simple as “Good Girl”

• Gifts of BDSM toys are always appreciated

Set goals with your Sub. It’s amazing how much you can motivate growth with accountability.  Especially effective with positive reinforcement, such as praise, and a true negative reinforcement, such as denial of pleasure.

Chose powerful words and words that empower.