Boundaries

Boundaries are to be discussed and understood by both. Remove doubt with follow up questions. Especially when exploring, request feedback.

We learn at our edges, at our extremes we grow. 

A boundary is relative and situational. If extra variables present, ensure the bounds are still at play. What was once OK may also be rescinded.

Keep yourself engaged, accountable, and safe by setting your own boundaries. 

Pet names or nicknames create boundaries. 

Ensure specifics are clarified and nothing left assumed when setting boundaries.

Let the moment dictate the tone and phrasing of your requests.

Identify the words, themes, or actions which can trigger a negative response.

Setting boundaries is simply the beginning, take the time to reinforce them.

Subs will often think they can maintain a boundary, however, once engaged they difficulty adhering to them.

Set a pain scale from 1 to 10. Whether it’a a slap to the ass or a pull of the hair, associate a number relative to intensity.