Frequently Asked Questions

Clearly, there are multiple reasons. However primarily, they center around the exploration of power dynamics, communication, and boundaries.

BDSM is like a buffet for kink. Pick & choose what works for you. Remember Bondage & Discipline can be a pin down and an ass slap. The D/S dynamic may simply just a look that puts one in their place. The Sadism & Masichism simply might be a play or act that an inflicted “punishment”  was painful to elicit compassion. It’s different for everyone. 

Your practice may not necessarily include pain play. However, for many, it is a tool. Within the boundaries set, it can grab attention or create a redirection. For some, the physical transformation of pain to pleasure allows them this alchemy on the mental and emotional.

Only if that’s how you like it. While certainly sexual by nature, It can be as sweet and innocent as you’d like it to be. 

We do it all the time, when in situations with those we trust. Doing so gives us opportunity to learn, to feel protected, and allow for states of reflection. Similarly, In BDSM, a sub is rewarded for their trust.

It may be used by a Dom to drop ego in a Sub. For others, it’s an exploration in owning a role or testing response to insult.

Other than engaging safely and consensually, there is no right way. Do it your way.